April 2, 2017

Manners

“Manners are very important and actually knowing when things are appropriate. I always open doors for women, I carry their coat, I make sure that they’re walking on the inside of the street. Stand up when people arrive at and leave the dinner table.”   -Tom Ford

 

You can be the greatest storyteller, the most fashionable man in the room, the most charming person this side of a fairytale, but if you’re a boor you won’t get very far.  The truth is that rudeness makes people uncomfortable and if you have any plans of meeting women making them uncomfortable is the surest route to failure.

 

Conversely, I find even a few small gestures that show you have even a touch of refinement can go a long way and set you apart from all the men women are sick of dating.  Don’t believe me?  Go to a movie theater and see how many men don’t open doors for their girlfriends.  Then the next time you see a woman behind you open the door for her and let her go first.  Notice her reaction.  You may be amazed.

 

 

Frankly, I could write a book on manners, but for now I’ll give you all a few basic rules to get you started:

 

Open doors for ladies.  All ladies. All the time.

Your date’s hands should be free.  Offer to carry her coat, shopping bags, etc.

Always offer an elbow.

Stand up when people come to and leave the table.

Speaking of the table, elbows off!

Learn which utensils are for which courses.

Don’t hold your spoon in an overhand/shovel position.

Don’t bite your bread.  Tear off and butter one bite at a time.

Sit up straight.

Don’t be crass.