April 2, 2017

A note on rejection

A note on rejection

 

Gentlemen, It’s important to keep in mind that we all get rejected and that, frankly, it’s no big deal.   Flirting is harmless fun for all.  It’s an enjoyable way to figure out who the other person is with no commitment, and the benefits run both ways.

 

If a woman isn’t interested, you should do the considerate and efficient thing, which is to politely excuse yourself from the conversation while remembering a few key points:

 

  1. The world is about 50.4% female.  The fact that one wasn’t interested simply means that there are billions more who could be.  It’s not a huge deal.
  2. The woman you’re talking to could already be seeing someone or married, just out of a painful relationship from which she hasn’t recovered, distracted by other things in her personal life and she’d rather just take in the surroundings, not into men, or any one of a million things you can’t control.  Truthfully, she’s under no obligation to talk to you anyway and since you’ve only just met her, you have no idea, so be a gentleman and see who else catches your eye that night.
  3. Flirting is a way of assessing or judging the other person to see if you want to continue the conversation in some form.  You should be assessing her as much as she’s assessing you.  There’s nothing wrong with politely rejecting her if you feel she’s not who you’re looking for.  Simply excuse yourself and move on.  Remember,  50.4% of the world’s population is female.  It’s OK to move on.